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Help by Not Helping
How do you think the
child feels in these cases:
"Here Sandhya, let me help you with your sandals".
"This is such a simple sum, Arun. I will show you how to do
it".
"See, you are dropping all over the place, let me feed you
now."
"Finding it tough? I will help you with your project in the
evening."
Are these cases
making our children independent and responsible individuals?
Now look at these:
"Shoe laces taking time, no problem I will wait."
"Spellings can be tricky, practice will make you perfect."
"Sometime keeping the plate close to you will avoid the food
spilling over."
"Finding it tough? Maybe library or internet will help you -
whatever, do your best!"
But perhaps the best
approach is - keep MUM. This is because STRUGGLE is a great
teacher - and more than learning what the child is doing he
or she is LEARNING HOW TO LEARN. All that is required from
your side is RESPECT for this struggle and PATIENCE!
Too soon, too early,
we reach out and help our children. Are we really helping
them? Instead let them do their own problem solving, be
creative and resourceful. Isn't that is what a strong and
deep foundation is all about. And remember its all about
simple things - no helping him with his buttons (may take
five times more time), her food, his sleeping, her homework,
problem with friend, etc. Let them search for their own
suggestions, solutions, and conclusions.
Obviously you will
need to step in sometimes - when they are tired, ill, tried
everything etc. Trust your instincts - you know best.
Remember the simple
formula: Autonomy & Independence & Responsibility = Struggle
(child's) + Patience (parent's)
By
Ratnesh & Aditi Mathur
For www.geniekids.com
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By Ratnesh & Aditi Mathur
For
www.geniekids.com
If you need one to one guidance on anything related to your child(ren) - we
offer the same through:
1) Email or chat or voice services like skype. This
costs you just Rs200 - one time fee - and unlimited
sessions/ emails related to your problems for a maximum
period of six months.
2) If you are in Bangalore, India - guidance in person,
at our center. This costs you just Rs500 - one time fee
- and unlimited sessions related to your problems for a
maximum period of six months
For further details on the same, including payment options - please email to
info@geniekids.com with subject as
"one-to-one"
All copyrights reserved by GenieKids.
Reproduction of any
part or whole of our articles (only flatters us!) can be only done with
due credit given to GenieKids with link to our website
www.geniekids.com
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