July 19th Session Report fom Minakshi

July 19th Session Takeouts - Minakshi

The sessions was an eye-opener for me on - Self
confidence, self esteem and social confidence. Also
how we use these interchangeably and that while self
confidence can fluctuate, self-esteem normally doesnt

I found Nupurs comment on Respect and love mind
blowing - that there can be respect without love but
no love without respect !! It was so well articulated
and so true, I shared this at home with my husband and
he too was floored.

The discussion on Self esteem and the need for harmony
was also wonderful

The three images of me - as seen by me, as seen by
others and as I wish others to see me and which leads
onto the question - who am i ? Present, past future
....

And then the discussion on raising self esteem - 4
levels of praise...

Level 1- Wow
Level 2 - Specific comments
Level 3 - How do you like it
Level 4 - Appreciate the skills and hardwork which
went behind it

This is one that I have always grappled with and I now
apply level 4 ( started yesterday) and my daughter
just lovessssss it. It works even better if I give all
4, there are many situations when she thinks I am just
not listening / seeing. This tells her that although I
amy be doing something else, I am still there and have
seen what she is showing. Better still Level 4 takes
away the need for the work to be visually wow or
correct

An incident I wld like to share - When my brother was
maybe 5 yrs old, my mum was asking him some math
questions and he on purpose gave the wrong answer.
When she asked him why, he said I wanted to check if u
were checking!!

On Shubhas comments on pictures, graphice - very valid
- but I dont know how to do it on this editor yet....