session review on 30th august session

Was it on discipline ???
I came with an expectation that it would be about how to give choices,
and conequences ........
And I am so thankful that it wasnt about it. It was about something
which is much much more important and basic.

I hmyself have gone through discpliining techniques, but I wasnt able
to use them effectively because, the problem was somewhere else. I
myself wasnt relaxed, in negative state of mind, and hence everything
would fail. Beause nothing was realy applied.

Now u havent given me the steps actually, but I am realxed. I am
trying out diff things. Now I am remembering that I read in those
articles, and now I am trying to apply them.
Now I can see my daughter and myself in feeling good state.

It is so imporetant that in everything this "=" thing is more
important. Acknowledging feeling, giving respect, acceptance, freedom,
choices, everything includes me as well as other person.

I have the choice to feel good and learn something or feel bad when
somebody says something to me. God, this is so wonderful. Something
happened today morning itseslf, and I felt bad,and was at to react
but i held myself back and since then I am thinking abt it, what other
choice do I have, can I learn something from this. Can I get
something out of it. How am I feeling.

In all this, I am not hurt, I am understanding the person better. Yes
its a choice, but it takes lot of awareness. At that moment, i may not
be able to do it, need to ponder over it for some time.

kirti