Participant Speaks

Neetu Shah 13ttt(online) says: Discipline with cooperation helps in raising self esteem of a child.He feels responsible for his deeds and behavior .I feel discipline can not be forced on any one- it has to come from within. It is more about self control and being responsible for one's behavior. No amount of discipline can control human nature of exploring,growing without limits. We might follow few disciplines but that we do only when we feel right about it .Forced or threatened discipline can't sustain for long.
 
Ami 13ttt says: when we understand that discipline is all abt treating the child equally.......the child becomes important and not ME as a person...........its all abt collaboration...thats what i realized....
Santrupta 13ttt says:I realized that even if I feel otherwise, I am actually not respecting my child enough. Without that first step, using any other methods/tools make them only half baked measures.

How to relax - THAT is the question . From what I understand, it is something like karam kar fal ki icha na kar - but we get caught up in our desires, expectations - and I wonder how to live without them?

Children cooperate if they feel you are on their side.
Bhavya 10ttt says:  With today’s session, I realise that most of the times, we as adults are the ones who are unable to relax. Hence we look at disciplining as a necessity or an alternative. I learnt one of the most important things today "Learn to RELAX in any situation" and believe in "I am capable".
Anupama 11ttt says: The realisation that children are on par with us on capabilities really touched me.Thats a field i would really like to work on with myself and children.Relaxing urself in a difficult situation is also a field i'd love to explore more bcoz i think its also the most difficult.Also i feel that all these sessions that we're doing are of no use if we dont put it into practicality atleast now.only then will we encounter real problems and from there will shoot out beautiful solutions. 
 
 
Sarang 11ttt says: Some of the key points I took back from this session were:
 

• Everyone loves being in control of their life and detests authority….same hold good for children.
• Treat children on par and then work towards a joint solution which is acceptable both ways.
• Nobody is perfect…including you…so relax and you will be more content.
• Be flexible, explain, use humor give choices and empower the child rather than decide on his behalf.

Gayatri 10ttt says: When we discipline children, we talk from a point of authority- a level above them. The position becomes one of disrespect to kids- it hurts their self esteem. Therefore while discipling, important thing to remember is that the child's intention is positive- this will shift the focus from behavior and treat them with respect.