Participant Speaks

Neetu Shah 13ttt (online) says: Discipline and alternative punishment holds lot of significance in our day to day dealing with kids -be it at school or home. The way of punishments- hitting,scolding, not talking, threatening ,bribing all ways are like chocolates--quick results -short term effect and harmful /ineffective in long run.The threat or bribe of watchmen or t.v can hold 7 years old but not 17 years old. That time we say- hath se nikal gaya ....
If parents being the centre of life for kids do all the threatening -emotional ones of not talking --what goes in the kids mind is just unimaginable. I remember an incident when my sister who was doing night journey with her 2 year old daughter and kid was very excited to be on train wasn't ready to sleep -- so my sister told her that uncle to take you down on another station if you dont sleep . I told my sister to imagine as to how will she feel if someone 7 times more to her size theatens her in the same way . So how was that kid feeling? PAT REPLY CAME-- Thats the only way..
 

 
Sarang 11ttt says: I feel that an over all understanding on beliefs, behaviors, its linkages to self esteem, motivation, thinking and a heightened awareness of discipline and punishments is what helps us connect them all together. This connection has made me believe that I have been wrong in my certain beliefs and approaches and I can make a change. It also guides me on how I can bring about this change…..so now I truly believe that Punishment is not a solution…..and as I want children to grow up CPH we need to look at alternatives to punishment!
Gayatri 10ttt says: Punishment builds fear, facing teh consequences contributes to responsibility part.

Consequences are opportunities for children to learn from their actions. Let them learn from their actions- and we can keep mum- we need not provide a commentary.

Behaviour depends upon teh state of mind. Non-desirable behaviour indicates a deficient state of mind and does in no way indicate character deficiency. We may be (most of the times, we are) a contributor to teh negative state of mind that the child is in.

We are co- creator of the problem, we also need to be co-solver. There has to be a 'WE' approach.

 
Anjali 13ttt says: We explored many more different ways of discipline than we believe are. I think it works in other relationships as well. Also, we first need to work with ourselves - beliefs, state of mind - before we understand children and use other ways with them.
 
Savitri 13ttt (online) says: According to me discipline is guidance. When we guide children toward positive behavior and learning, we are promoting a healthy attitude. Positive guidance encourages a child to think before he acts. Positive guidance promotes self-control. Different styles of discipline produce results that are different. Discipline requires thought, planning, and patience.
 

Anupama 11ttt says:When I came to Geniekids  I had almost given up on disciplining my son and said that beyond this if it has to happen it will . I have done my bit I cant try any further. And believe me after geniekids  I feel like I’ve been given a clean new slate to start all over again. Discipline minus punishment was a wonder way to deal with kids. Like we say, when there is no option of punishment we learn to deal with the situation in 100 other ways.