whether to send out for play or not

Submitted by pooja on Tue, 19/08/2008 - 13:00

in my neighborhood some of kids use abusive language and also have habit of hitting.i have a daughther of 2 and half year.i do not want her to go out and play because of other children habits.but she wants to go out and play with them.
i am not able to understand what should i do.
please guide me.

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thanks

Submitted by pooja on Wed, 20/08/2008 - 08:22.

thanks for guiding me.

How do habits get formed?

Submitted by ratnesh on Tue, 19/08/2008 - 19:08.

1. How will you prevent your child from picking up abusive language used in movies, or by adults around her - and why limit the discussion to language and hitting - why not any habit?

2. What happens when a parent hits or shouts at he child - isn't there a chance that the child learns that?

3. Just by mere exposure does a habit get formed?

 

Check out the follwing article called The Myth of (bad) habits

Good to start early

Submitted by mina on Tue, 19/08/2008 - 18:00.

I think it is good to start early and have the child experience the different situations. This way the child gets to work out the options.

If we empower the child, then child is able to slowly start dealing with the situations themselves.

But it takes time and we need to ready for that...

see this as an opportunity

Submitted by aditi on Tue, 19/08/2008 - 16:06.

Agree with Trupti "empower the child". Instead of stopping the child - talk to the child.
How does she feels/ think when somebody uses foul language?
Empower your child to say " I do like this word - do not say that".
Also empower your child to be able to say NO to any child she/ he does not want to play with.
Visit the park with your child and whenever a child say any foul language you say "You cannot say me stupid - you can ask what do you want me to do" "What is the meaning of idiot?" Any time a child uses word "stupid" I ask what does that mean? And normally they are able to replace that word.

Make sure you as parent is not labeling other children "bad" children and your child any superior. You may not like any action of other children talk about that only.
This apply to ALL the age groups - so do not think your child is small.

Try empowering your child

Submitted by trupti on Tue, 19/08/2008 - 14:30.

I know it is easier said than done, but empowering them to deal with such situations is the best thing, and perhaps the only thing we can do. How long can you stop the child from mixing with children of many different types? If you stop her from going to the park, it is possible that probably she will meet such kind in her school in future. How will she cope up then? Think it over and try empowering her.